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JDM has received repeated requests for Junior's quips, sayings, analects, even hilarious one-liners, to be compiled into a book or webpage. It is often commented how these concise remarks replay in the mind for years to come, giving simple humor or piercing perspective or new growth. In response, Junior will be publishing a regular quote here. (All content here and sitewide is the intellectual and copyright property of JDM. All rights reserved.)

Personal transformation can, at times, be so grueling, so upsetting, so painful, for a few reasons, but one reason stands out as perhaps the strongest and the sneakiest: we have Stockholm Syndrome with our old self. Deep down, we like our old self too much. Deep down, we appreciate what our old self has done for us. Yeah, that self is broken, love-starved, crazy by multiple definitions, idol-worshiping, low IQ, low EQ, abusive, and self-sabotaging, but that self also helped us survive, get stuff we craved, and win to varying degrees.

Cooperating with our First Love and His Spirit of transformation, then, is literally breaking up with ourselves. Putting the old self to death is scary and sentimental because that old self served us pragmatically well in the social darwinism of our life. That same old self, however, also kept us from true spiritual power in all its transcendent ecstasies; from true emotional freedom that allows you to sleep deep and not have recurring digestive issues; from true mental health and its razor-sharp clarity and wisdom; from true relational happiness that only comes from the relational know-how of the second Adam, not the first; from true financial wealth that comes not from a specific number in an account, but from a wealthy personhood that naturally and supernaturally keeps drawing money and resources to you; from true existential purpose that vocationalizes your God-given design into a career you absolutely adore.

Yes, the old self served you selfishly, toxically well, but it also kept you from the highest realities and highest happinesses possible. Part of the preparatory groundwork to leaving an abuser is to get meticulously honest about what the abuser kept for you versus what the abuser kept you from. What the old self did for you made you attached and sentimental towards it; therein is the Stockholm Syndrome. However, through a deep and rigorous prayer life bonding with the very presence of the Lord, through the power of His Word, through holy, healthy, helpful influences, the emotional and mental weight of your inner world must completely shift away from what the old self kept for you and into what the old self kept you from.



...put off your old self, which belongs to your former manner of life and is corrupt through deceitful renewed in the spirit of your minds...put on the new self, created after the likeness of God in true righteousness and holiness.

Ephesians 4:22-24 (ESV)

For if we have become united with Him in the likeness of His death, certainly we shall also be in the likeness of His resurrection, knowing this, that our old self was crucified with Him, in order that our body of sin might be done away with, so that we would no longer be slaves to sin.

Romans 6:5,6 (NASB)

The boundary lines have fallen for me in pleasant places; surely I have a delightful inheritance...You make known to me the path of life; you will fill me with joy in your presence, with eternal pleasures at your right hand.

Psalms 16:6,11 (NIV)

And we all, with unveiled face, beholding the glory of the Lord, are being transformed into the same image from one degree of glory to another. For this comes from the Lord who is the Spirit.

2Corinthians 3:18 (ESV)


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