Quotes Archive, 2021

"To help someone change, you have to pinpoint the deepest stories they tell themselves. Then you have to tamper deliberately with those stories, (I) pointing out the unnoticed problems, incoherencies, contradictions, and impossibilities in the stories, and (II) holding up new and better stories for them to flirt with and eventually fall in love with, own, and manifest as new outcomes." (4/3)

"Elijah gave his mantle to the one who washed his hands, followed him to the very end, and was able to "see" loss. One does not deserve the weight of glory unless they can ignore the weight of glamour and carry the weight of grit over time. Take longterm faithfulness seriously. Ignore glowing emotional words that show up too early." (3/21)

"Genuine, permanent transformation does not happen via behavior modification alone. That takes way too long and the changes are surface-level. Personal transformation eventuates from consistent epiphany and inspiration, which then prompt practical behaviors and choices. Epiphany (in this context) refers to sudden and penetrating realizations into the deepest, rawest "whys" of your behavior—the seeds (original events and conditions) that grew trees (life structures) that sprouted fruits (behaviors and outcomes). Inspiration refers to an inner Fire that never goes out, a Source of unending motivation and provocation to follow through with the transformation project until new trees grow and new fruits appear." (3/10)

"The feudal system may no longer exist as an explicit social setup, but it absolutely still exists in implicit social dynamics. When one person successfully controls another--eliciting protracted fealty, hyperloyalty, even practical service--is this not the spirit and substance of feudalism? When pathways of upward mobility are blocked or hindered or suspiciously narrow, is this not the spirit of feudalism? We have become lords at changing vocabularies and labels, but remain peasants and serfs in actual life dynamics." (2/27)

"We each live in a world of our own making, an umwelt, a perpetual sequence of perception-conception-action, which happens at largely subconscious levels (for most people). Your umwelt begins with perception, how you interpret the variables and persons in your environment. From perception you move into a conception of how you should respond, which is largely a kneejerk repetition of past patterns (for most people). From conception you enter into action, or lack of action, to actualize your perception and conception. Want to change your world, change your umwelt: incorrect perceptions of the true nature of what and who is around you, incorrect conceptions of what you should do (which is what you have always done), incorrect actions that flow from incorrect perceptions and conceptions." (2/21)

"The most promising relationships begin with conscious, informed forethought in multiple dimensions, bypassing deeper instinctual forces like raw emotions, missing pieces from childhood, unmet needs in the present, self-esteem holes, parental imagos (idealizing, pedestaling, or fearing parents), other types of imagos, and so on. These deeper forces objectify the other into a psychological toy or cartoon character of sorts, diminishing their uniqueness and true beauty." (2/6)

"Taking care of everyone else is a defense mechanism, a savior complex, a type of passive-aggressive altruism, and in extreme cases, a type of predatory altruism. What is the deeper self really needing and wanting? Who are you really doing it for? If you do not get to the deepest emotional truth and resolve the cathexis at the core, there will always be an ironic selfism, a subtle stain of duplicity, even hypocrisy, in your so-called caring for others. (1/31)

"Semantic therapy is all over Scripture. What are your word habits? What are the hidden assumptions and emotional substructure causing your go-to speech patterns? Excessive silence, hyperprivacy (i.e., emotional isolation), never/rarely asking for help, never/rarely sharing deeper vulnerabilities, linguistic poverty, etc. are just as much sin and dysfunction as active linguistic problems like talking way too much or speech patterns that block intimacy or speech patterns that seek unilateral power and control." (1/20)

"Most people are not free enough, self-aware enough, confident enough, visionary enough, independent enough, whatever enough, to make the decision they really should make. Some individuals, however, will make the decision if a loved one builds a permission structure within their psyche, and sometimes, around them too (socially, financially, etc.). A permission structure is a coherent set of powerful reasons for the decision, matching or surpassing the emotional fears and character problems that block or retard great decisions. A permission structure, though coherent, is not only coherent, since many people understand rationally what they should do but very few actually do it. A permission structure is equal parts coherence and emotion, both persuasive and tantalizing in their own way in their respective realms, in a way that significantly undermines and challenges the psyche's existing decision-making structure. The bottom line is simple and pragmatic: people do not make blessed decisions until their existing decisional structure is significantly undermined and challenged, and in some cases, demolished altogether." (12/20/20)

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"False or immature prophets predict and preach things people already want. They are mirrors for their audience's earthly wishlist, reflecting back at them their cravings, unmet needs, injustices, aspirations, and political ideals. True or mature prophets tell you—with astonishing precision, felt authority, and pride-exposing frankness—where you need to develop and mature spiritually. While foreknowledge and foresight are occasional aspects of prophetic ministry, spiritual development (what 1Corinthians 14 calls "edification", what Ephesians 4:11-13 call "repairing, preparing, and maturing the Body") is the arrowtip of New Testament prophecy. Beware of people with microphones that keep repeating what you already want. Beware of seeking out such people of your own initiative. If you want to be triply blessed (and awed) by the truest, purest form of New Testament prophecy, seek out those who will tell you—with uncanny precision, noticeable spiritual power, and pride-exposing frankness—where you need to develop and mature spiritually." (4/13)