Junior deSouza

Quotes Archive, 2018


"Expert warriors are not baited by provocations, red herrings, ultimately meaningless concessions, or disingenuous detentes. From the higher ground of strength they control the construct of peace, cold war, or actual war."


"In prayer, when the Lord's answer is Yes, He generally manifests that Yes in two ways. Sometimes it manifests the way we imagined or immeasurably more than we asked or imagined. I call this the "unicorn answer", and wow it is dazzling. Our intercessory faith growth-spurts at these moments. At other times, He includes us in the answer's evolutional process from beginning to end. I call this the "seed form answer". It enters our life crude and incomplete, requiring our active participation in its development to what we originally asked and imagined. The euphoric unicorn answer will come, fully formed and ready to ride, but only sometimes. Have the prophetic faculty and maturity to perceive the answer when it appears as a seed."


"Some people only respond to deterrence, not pleasant initiatives or privileges or olive branches or concessions. Read this early in the interaction. Deterrence blocks the escalation ladder and saves you mop-up later."


"Love has a multiexpressive nature. It mandates different behaviors in different situations. We will occasionally have to ignore our personality type or deeper wishes or spiritual gifts to love accurately across a variety of situations."


"What is your personal fiction? Humans have a peculiar vulnerability to incorrect storylines imagined with limited information mixed with excessive emotion. Via interpolation and extrapolation, semi-facts coagulate into narratives, narratives into emotions, emotions into ideas, ideas into actions, actions into life outcomes."


"There are bite-size listeners and big-chunk listeners. Bite-sizers can only chew finger food, big-chunkers can listen to buffets. Beware, though, of too quickly assigning valences to either. An 'impatient' bite-sizer might really be for you, while a 'conscientious' big-chunker might simply be sizing you up or phishing for vulnerabilities."


"Changing your avatar is not changing your identity. I am not referring to screen names and profile pictures. Call it what you will--heart, core, viscera,  subconscious, emotional foundations, the deeper self--but it is at this level that epiphany must be experienced for transformation to happen."


"Most people are emotional and picturesque (imagery-driven), not analytical and keen, even if they talk fancy and project intelligence. Discover this quickly and it will explain much. Very few people truly live under the dominion of wisdom, and therefore, very few people enjoy her richest of fruits."


"You can be a Nice Guy or a Free Man, but, at certain consequential moments, you cannot be both."


"I'm amused by pudgy pugilist preachers who jab, uppercut, and right hook drunkenness and immorality and other delicious sins, but seem to always leave out gluttony. I'm sure it was an oversight."


"Formal credentialed education will always lose to prescient, on-the-ground wisdom. The former will give you job security, the latter will give you the subtle forces that control all financial traffic. The former will get you on C-Span, the latter will get you in people's emotions, imaginations, and decisions."


"The born-again life is an unforced life of intuition. God's gifts and serendipity rarely assert themselves to us. They insinuate or hint at us on the sidetracks and edges of our life, requiring a 180-degree intuitive curiosity."


"Eliminate subconscious parenting. Parenting is damaging when from unexplored, undefined, unresolved personal emotions. Parenting is lifegiving when from objective understandings and fine-tuned approaches."


"Do not miss the importance of the playground and the nightclub. These microcultures display the amusing and dangerous human instinct for hierarchy."


"Heart alone or habit alone or help alone cannot create success. Heart keeps you going when habit fails, but habit keeps you going when heart fails, but help keeps you going when heart and habit fail."


"God designed life to be a mysterium and imaginarium, not an aquarium."

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"Upload and resolve buried emotions and live free. Update old emotions and live in the moment. Upgrade melancholy emotions and live buoyant. Upscale serfdom emotions and live as more than a conqueror, a king ."


"People listen for two reasons: (1) personalities, stories, and characterizations or (2) underlying concepts, forces, and mechanisms. The former entertains and satisfies your emotional tendencies, the latter illumines you with wisdom and power."


"Many parents raise their children with Cold War tactics, like containment, (trying to) outspend bad behavior, and a deterrence-incentive seesaw. But your child is not an idea to be managed, he/she is a living soul with a labyrinth of needs and drives. Humanize your parenting and bring it down to their level."